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這是父母和子女的關係 現在很流行的思想是父母應該和子女好像朋友一樣. 希望孩子會和父母什麼都傾談. 不需要子女＇尊敬父母. 這是新潮的趨向. 上一代的父母子女關係是嚴肅尊敬, 而且是很隔膜的, 他們絕對不是孩子的朋友. 他們絕對不會跟父母談心事.他們只會尊敬父母，並且會遠離父母. 所以近代的教育, 主張父母和子女的關係密切一點. 不要另子女這麼尊敬父母. 上一代是尊敬，現在這一代是平等的友誼。各有長處，各有壞處. 上一代是極度的尊敬,現在一代是朋友關係。我相信父母與子女關係應該在這兩極端的中間. 我相信大部份人都知道過分要求孩子尊敬的父母有很多壞處. 我在這篇文章裏要提醒大家的是: 孩子尊敬父母, 除了父母得益之外，對孩子有沒有一點好處呢？ 當孩子尊敬父母的時候，孩子便會信任父母的知識見解,及經驗.而且孩子會信任父母的指導. 幾年前我有一位病人，在這𥚃我稱他為黃先，他問我: 當他帶他的九歲的孩子亞雄旅行到中國的張家界. 當他們正在要踏上玻璃橋的時候, 亞雄便不願意踏上這個玻璃橋. 他們父母兩人站在橋的前面,不斷對亞雄解釋. 這個橋是多麼安全的. 他們站在橋邊，看著大人及小孩輕鬆的步過那長橋，沒有一個人丟下山坑。。他也看到有一對父母帶着一個和他年齡差不多的孩子, 這個孩子有點猶豫,不想走過這個玻璃橋,但當那小孩的父母說：牽著我們的手,一齊走吧。那孩子便緊握著他父母的手，踏上玻璃橋上。而黃先生黃太太兩人卻在那裡花了半小時解釋又解釋。可是亞雄依然不願意踏上玻璃橋。他們三人只好走回頭. 黃先生問我:為什麼我的孩子怕過橋,而且不聽我們的話，但另一個孩子也怕過橋，但他聴他父母的話。為什麼呢？ 我回答說: 我不知道.我不知道他們那兩對父母與那兩個孩子的關係有什麼不同？但我略知道黃先生,黃太太與他孩子的關係是非常好像朋友一樣的. 他常常讓孩子去理解事情, 然後由孩子作決定。他特別不願意要孩子聽他們的話，他說: 他要訓練他們的孩子有獨立思想的能力。他說他要孩子不要盲從別人. 什麼事情都要用自己的理解能力判斷. 所以他很少用父母的尊嚴,要孩子服從他的指導或教訓. 黃先生問我: 為什麼這次他花了半小時用各種不同的角度去解釋，又讓亞雄站在橋旁觀察半小時都不能改變亞雄的決定呢？我一時也不知道如何回答他. 我黃先生, 亞雄平常在家裏是怎樣的. 他說亞雄不會聽他們的話, 他一定要他或是他的太太解釋到亞雄了解，他才會接受, 他才會做他們要他做的事.他說,這樣雖然花多一些時間,但是這樣可以培養得亞雄的獨立思想能力, 他認為對亞雄的解釋雖然是花時間，但是是值得的. 但他們從來沒有遇到好像在張家界過玻璃橋的那種麻煩. 我在想:他們這種教育方式與亞雄不願意過這個玻璃橋的事，有沒有有關係呢. 亞雄可能有點怕高症。一看到腳底下的深淵, 便不願動了。他雖然知道這是很硬的玻璃. 很多人行過都沒有問題, 但是這個恐懼的視覺印象卻不能用理解來克服. 黃先生又問我:怎樣才能夠讓他克服這種恐懼呢？我想了很久都沒有想出辦法. 這確實是非常困難的問題, 特別是這個孩子已經養成一個習慣：就是他不願意做，除非他了解. 這種孩子,他不願意做一些他不理解的事情，這就是一個非常大的問題. 他不能理解: 他怎可以把腳搭在沒有實實在在的石坂上，他也不能理解，腳搭在玻璃上，而玻璃不會破碎. […]

How an opportunitic attitude relate to anxiety One of my clients told me: A client came to me for her anxiety problem. She described her symptoms such as tireness, always in a hurry, irritable, inpatient for the driver in front of her not speed up when the amber light is on, heart pounding fast, breath

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who are those who suffer long and deep impact of trauma (complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) why you have to work on Self-Compassion when you have PTSD   Who are those who suffer long and deep impact of trauma.(Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Why you have to work on self-compassion when you have PTSD. Some

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There are people who are feeling happy more often than the average person. In this article, I just refer to them as happy people. This article analyzes their personality traits that are related to their feeling of happiness. I will analyze their personality traits in terms of thought, feeling and behavior. What is their thoughts

Praying from the perspective of Eastern Psychological Services Our services is in the realm of behavioral health. We serve people of all religious faiths. When my patients mention to me that they Pray. I often inquire about their practice of praying.  I asked them how they pray, sitting with both feet on the ground, or

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